I usually share personal stuff only in my newsletters or in my Successful Women Facebook group. The reason is that I like keeping some things private and only share them with my tribe, as a plus for being with me, week after week. I noticed that when I am vulnerable, other people tend to open up and magical things happen.
But, after writing another 1,000 words email, I realized it’s time to post this somewhere everyone can see. I have experienced massive personal growth this month and there are a few lessons that are worth mentioning because I know most people can relate to them and it might make them feel better knowing they are not alone.
The stories are juicy and you won’t get bored. Pinky promise.
5 Lessons That I Won’t Ever Forget
- I got married to the love of my life, my high-school sweetheart.
“Stay in your head, you are dead” – As Tony Robbins said in “I am not your guru” documentary.
Family and friends that came to our city hall wedding ceremony.
Me and my husband starting a new life together.
ENJOY and get out of your head. Things always work out for the best. Have faith, be optimistic and positive. When you stop controlling the outcome of each detail, you feel happier and other people will do a better job. Let them!
- I’ve changed my name, so from now on I am Roswitha Herman.
After we have signed the papers and I became Mrs. Herman.
- Being a feminist or a powerful woman does not imply keeping your name, cause otherwise you lose your identity. Your identity is who you are always, not your name.
- Worry less and let the Universe take care of everything. I tried to control everything, to make it perfect. Until I realized that I am tired of this and in that moment, all solutions came and everything went GREAT.
- Universe made more space in my life.
As you can imagine, the timing was not great.
Thank God for my husband and my friend, Alexandra, who were next to me that night and made me see the whole picture.You see, I saw this as being BAD, for a few moments. I had a plan with my client, I invested A LOT in helping her accomplish all her goals and I felt stripped.
I felt “it’s not fair“.
I felt I did too much and received too little.
And I knew why this happened.
You see, she was my last client that booked me for only $650. As this might be a high price for some, for me it was too little for what I was offering. And since I tend to over deliver, I spent over 20h of coaching in only 3 months (when we should have only had 6 hours of coaching) and that took a lot of my energy.
One night I even got home and went straight to bed, I felt so tired and sick. I slept in the whole day next day.
This was a WAKE UP CALL for me.
The energetical exchange was no longer a good one and the Universe stopped it before it went too far and probably would have damaged my relationship with my client.
You see, she had NO FAULT in this.
The problem was with me, always over delivering and not setting boundaries.
Be kind, over deliver, help as much as you can – BUT set boundaries and always ASK YOUR PRICE.
- See things from a different perspective.
Last week I got an email that my on going contract with the biggest publishing agency in the US was canceled. This was easy money. Sure money. This was SAFETY.
Although I hated having my “part-time job” for them because I don’t like having a fixed schedule – I am a rebel, I did it for the money.
I did it for the safety.
The moment I read the email, my husband said “Something better will come along” and I felt so FREE. Yes, a little bit scared, but free.
This is not the first time something like this happens to me. The first time it happened was in September 2015 and that time I went nuts. I cried for days, I felt miserable, scared, worried, anxious, really negative.
This time, I had faith. Because I had a prior example of things working out for the best.
You see the last time, when I lost a big contract, I knew we were doomed. We had 4 more months and then (in my mind) we would go hungry and on the streets, not being able to survive financially. That was our MAIN income stream and overnight it was gone. G-O-N-E. I knew then, that January 2016 would need to be our worst month EVER.
Thanks to that contract being canceled, our life has changed completely and we were able to make 2016 a very wealthy year for us, buying everything we wanted and creating new and BETTER income streams.
This is why THIS TIME, I just relaxed, got more rest, watched the Gilmore Girls and felt good.
I know something AMAZING IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN. I am excited like a child waiting for Christmas morning.
Everything happens for a reason, for your best interest.
- Sometimes rest is all we need.
After all the incidents with over planning my wedding ceremony, my client, the paperwork being delayed, the contract, problems with my wedding invitations, I needed to take a break. By doing nothing – no email (and I have 3 accounts with dozens of new emails DAILY), no phone calls, no coaching, no going out – I got my energy, my mojo, my creativity and all that is good on this planet BACK.
3 days after me sitting in bed, watching the Gilmore Girls, something unexpected happen.
On the same day, we received wedding gifts worth of $2280 from people we did not expect, people that might not be able to come to our wedding but wanted to gift us something. 65 days BEFORE the wedding!
Since then, new and new payments enter our accounts, from places we did not expect, EVERY DAY.
How is this possible and how do things like these happened?
Well, I got some rest. I let go of my resistance and the Universe started to provide.
Stop thinking. Stop planning. Stop. Get some rest. You’ll be surprised of what will happen next.
This was my month.
And yes, still in my pajamas, as I am writing this article and I just started episode 1, season 3 – Gilmore Girls.
Now, it’s your time!
What personal lessons did you learn this month?
Share them with me in a comment bellow – I would love to know what you have overcome and how.
Love and light,
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